Today is Profile #3: John Mocko, ACC.
A couple weeks ago I asked John some questions, and because they flow so well on their own, today I’m setting this up as a Q&A session. As you will read below, John is not looking for things to do with his time, but even so, we are very excited that soon he will be leading some of the classes we offer, and everyone here is very excited to have him join the team!
Name: John Mocko
Place of Residence: Englewood, Florida
Job: Currently I am Program Director for Faith+ Finances + Freedom for the North Carolina Synod and Coaching Lab Coordinator for coaches for mission developers and redevelopers in the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America.
How long have you been coaching? I have been coaching since 2006.
How did you get started coaching? I was invited by my Director for Evangelical Mission to attend NCD (Natural Church Development) and Coach Training in South Carolina.
What is your coaching specialty/niche? Most of my coaching has to do with either leadership development or life coaching.
Who are your clients? Most of my clients are pastors or lay leaders in the church. I also coach some people in the business world.
What kind of goals do your clients typically pursue in coaching? Most of the time I coach toward the goal of effective development of leadership capacity, usually in a specific context such as congregational renewal or mission development. I also coach people toward particular life goals such as preparing for retirement or personal growth and health.
What is one of your best coaching stories? One of my clients was paralyzed by various kinds of fears. Our coaching conversations led the client to develop a series of tiny habits over several sessions, things the client would say when fear appeared in her mind. The tiny habits are proving to be effective for the client to regain self-control and self-confidence. The client remarked, “I am smarter. I am stronger. I am healthier.”
How has coaching changed you, and what have you learned about yourself? Coaching has tuned my listening skills; now I can better understand what is important to another person. I am more aware of my inner voice and how to control it so that a client can benefit from my coaching. I have learned that I have the basic skill set for coaching and that I have to continue to develop those skills day by day in order to be the best coach I can be.
What’s unique about your coaching and what’s unique about you as a coach? One client I have describes our coaching conversations as “wondrous dread’. What he means by this is that we have developed a trust level where he always finds himself going deeper in his thinking, to places where he doesn’t usually go that push his self-understanding. The conversations result in wonder and joy for him. I seek to develop trust with my clients that will allow me to ask powerful questions that produce significant growth for my clients.
What is your best advice for someone who wants to use coaching to develop the people around them? Relationship is critical, relationship that inspires mutual trust and respect. Coaching presence is also crucial. Invest in the life interests of the client. Then use the basic skills of coaching. As people experience you as someone who listens curiously to what is important to them, they grow.
What have you learned while running your own coaching practice? I have learned the importance of developing good habits for my coaching. Recording sessions and listening to them helps me grow in my capacity. I learn from my mistakes and build on good habits as I listen to a session after it has been recorded. Taking notes during a session and using them to prepare for my next coaching session with a client is very helpful. Preparing for a session at least 15 minutes before a session begins puts me in a better state of mind for coaching.
What are the key insights you would offer about developing a coaching culture? Culture change takes time, and therefore demands a lot of patience. A key leader in a system who can develop a team to promote a coaching culture has been helpful within our church body. As people are changed by coaching, tell their stories as a way to inspire others to engage in coaching.
What is your favorite CoachNet class? Coaching Habits
What would you say to someone who is considering coaching as a career? The active recruiting of clients is important. Don’t wait for people to come to you seeking your services as a coach. Go out and look for people who could benefit from your coaching, invite them to a trial period first if they are not ready for a long-term coaching relationship.
What are your coaching goals? I want to become better as a coach as a result of each coaching session that I have so that my clients accomplish the goals they set for themselves.
What’s next in your coach development? I hope to achieve my Professional Coaching Credential (PCC) with the International Coaching Federation this year.